A Must-Read for All Women!

Leanna Shepard

5 Stars

July 31, 2013

I always assumed this book might as well have been titled, “For Wives Only”. But boy was I wrong! There is so much in here for women to understand to help them relate to men in general—to dads, brothers, even friends. Knowing how a man's mind works can help know what to say when I want to encourage or support a brother or brother in Christ, and what not to say! And, as odd as it sounds, it also keeps me from doing, wearing, or saying things that would inadvertently attract a guy's attention, all because I had no clue how he thinks!

This revised and updated edition of the original “For Women Only”, includes an entire new chapter based on updated research by author Shaunti Feldhahn, and explains why the frustrating occurrence of men “checking out” of a conversation is not all what it seems.

Several of the topics Shaunti covers that differentiates men from women I was aware of, but not to the full extent. Yes, I'd heard it said that men's brains process like a waffle, and women like spaghetti, but I hadn't thought of how that explains misunderstandings and miscommunication in a relationship.

The back cover summarizes the book in this way: “The man in your life carries important feelings sod deep inside he barely knows they're there, much less how to talk about them. Yet your man genuinely wants you to “get him”--to understand his inner life, to know his fears and needs, to hear what he wishes he could tell you. In her landmark bestseller, For Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn reveals what every woman—single or married—needs to know. Based on rigorous research with thousands of men, Shaunti delivers one eye-opening revelation after another, including: -Why your respect means more to him than your love. -How he feels deep inside about his role as provider. -What it means for a man to be so visually “wired”...”

Shaunti does an excellent job explaining the inner workings of men based on surveys she took over time of thousands of men. She addresses some sensitive issues with tact, and emphasizes the important role wives have in influencing their man. In order for a marriage to glorify God, the couple must exemplify their roles as Christ & the Bride, and that begins with understanding one another and loving each other through their differences.

I received a copy of this book from Waterbrook-Multnomah's Blogging for Books program in exchange for this review. These opinions are my own and I was not pressed to write a positive review.